tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264581077330970620.post1098714247229814616..comments2023-09-26T05:14:02.611-04:00Comments on o filthy grandeur!: In my acceptance, I'm too sensitive; In other's hatred, they're standing up for what they believe inFilthyGrandeurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08939478425921080818noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264581077330970620.post-72573640403112697022009-05-24T14:26:08.864-04:002009-05-24T14:26:08.864-04:00Yes, I get this a lot, plus particularly women are...Yes, I get this a lot, plus particularly women are accused of wingeing and also we get things chucked at us like we're hormonal or it must be time of the month. There are set phrases which can be used for any situation where a woman is saying something which makes the men feel uncomfortable. <br /><br />I've particularly been someone who doesn't often give her opinions (which is happily being solved by blogging) because I'm always the negotiator and keeper of the peace.<br /><br />This means I get additional things thrown at me too. Last week I was accused of being selfish and going mad too as well as the usual wingeing etc comments.<br /><br />It's hard work, but once you recognise that reaction as the panicky animal reaction, that it's growling aimed at shutting us up, but that it's not going to lead to biting - then you get the confidence to carry on.Prudencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03857546622091578812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264581077330970620.post-29652984594648074822009-05-20T09:58:26.871-04:002009-05-20T09:58:26.871-04:00I had this thought in the back of my head many tim...I had this thought in the back of my head many times, when talking to my peers about racism. When they were bemoaning the oh-so horrible way that white males are disenfranchised by affirmative action, they were being brave by speaking their minds. When I told them that they were blind to their privilege, I was being "obnoxious", "oversensitive" and "whiny". <br />Really, these labels are used as a tool to silence well-meaning, intelligent people who may have something new to say. When you make someone uncomfortable, perhaps you've hit a nerve by exposing privileges and unfair advantages. No amount of finger-pointing or labeling can cover that up.Quixotic Autistichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04989307054227176948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264581077330970620.post-14161373171573818892009-05-19T20:50:55.632-04:002009-05-19T20:50:55.632-04:00The reason Preejan is praised is because her belie...The reason Preejan is praised is because her beliefs support the dominant social discourse. People want to have their privileges reaffirmed and when you speak out about injustice you are pointing out how they are dehumanizing someone. <br /><br />I agree it takes courage to speak out but we must continue to do so otherwise they will never learn that their commentary is unacceptable. I know when someone tells me that I am too sensitive they are trying to silence me because what I am saying is making them uncomfortable. My thought is if the commentary of someone gives you a feeling of discomfort, rather than immediately reacting, take the time to understand why you are troubled. It is usually a sign of unacknowledged privilege.Reneehttp://www.womanist-musings.comnoreply@blogger.com