I was talking to my friend at work about presents we were planning on getting our male significant others for xmas, when she suggested "Just give him sex."
And this got me thinking: why is it that every time I talk to a woman about what to get my fiance for a gift, they suggest sex? Do men in heterosexual relationships encounter this when discussing what to buy their girlfriends or wives? Do men ever suggest to other men to give sex to their girlfriends or wives? Does anyone make this suggestion to men and women in homosexual relationships, or is this strictly a heterosexual thing?
I just wonder about these things because within this one suggestion comes several assumptions: that men want sex, women withhold sex, and women should at least give sex to men on special occasions. There is also this assumption that women don't enjoy sex (or at least shouldn't admit to liking it, or else they're filthy filthy sluts. Or something.).
It also makes it sound like a chore for us ladies. If it's a gift to the man, then it's almost like the woman is an object (sound familiar?); it's not about her beyond the scope of her parts. It makes it only about getting the man off instead of creating an equal exchange of pleasure.
This only reinforces that sex is all about the man, that since women don't like sex anyway (or aren't supposed to) there is no need for reciprocation on the man's part. It's her job right?
But many women enjoy sex, have sex, and, believe it or not, initiate sex (that's right; we don't wait around for a man to coerce us into "putting out.").
And I'm sure I'm not the only woman who wouldn't mind getting sex on her birthday...
Thoughts?
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Friday, December 18, 2009
Hell, I wouldn't mind some hot sex for MY birthday
Posted by FilthyGrandeur at 12/18/2009 08:16:00 PM 10 comments
Labels: gender roles, sex, sexuality, women
Monday, September 21, 2009
Today in big surprises
Teen Birth Rates Higher in Highly Religious States.
Huh. Apparently telling teens to wait and discouraging the use of contraception does little to deter teen pregnancy. Go figure.
I guess I'm just okay with making Jesus cry with my pre-marital sex.
H / T: Feministing
Posted by FilthyGrandeur at 9/21/2009 05:55:00 PM 0 comments
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Dead bodies having sex...oh nooooeeesss!
Some of you may already know about Body Worlds, the exhibition of cadavers that combines science and art to educate people on human anatomy. These cadavers are preserved in a process known as "plastination."
Body Worlds has come under scrutiny before, the exhibitions being deemed controversial. While fascinating, there are some exhibits that cannot help but make the viewer uncomfortable. I remember when I went to see Body Worlds here in Milwaukee last summer with my fiance. He's a med student, so of course he liked the science aspects, and I loved the artistic aspects.
I saw each preserved and posed cadaver as a sculpture. But of course one cannot help but remember that each of these objects was once a living person, and this fact was never more obvious than the exhibit featuring a plastinated female body with its pregnant belly exposed, showing the preserved fetus inside. A kind plaque informed us that the woman died in a car accident. I couldn't help but think that that woman was too young, and she and her baby were related to someone. I was caught, because while the sculpture was undoubtedly fascinating, frozen in a lithe pose, fetus curled inside the open uterus, I thought the exhibit was unavoidably insensitive.
But I think that's the point. Body Worlds exhibits bodies in poses, which effectively bares our humanity as it is tied to our actual naked anatomy.
The new exhibit will have cadavers in various sex positions to serve as a starting point of the life cycle. This, of course, has incited more controversy. The purpose is to show the raw function of sex as it pertains to conception, and is not meant to imitate pornography:
"It's not my intention to show certain sexual poses. My goal is really to show the anatomy and the function," Body Worlds creative director Whalley told Reuters in an interview, adding the sex exhibition may open next year.There are those critics who find this exhibit to be disgusting because it inextricably links death and sex. I'm the first to always point out that intention is inconsequential since it doesn't always equal how an audience will receive it, and this situation is no different. Many critics have stated that this is disrespectful to the dead, but we're not dealing with the dead in a traditional sense. And let's not forget that these bodies are obtained through willing donations--the exhibits are not the results of grave robbing. I feel that we should respect the right of an individual's autonomy over their own body, even in death, and am not sure that this violates that.
Body Worlds exhibitions, visited by 27 million people across the world, have been criticized for presenting entire corpses, stripped of skin to reveal the muscles and organs underneath, in lifelike and often theatrical positions.
Von Hagens has already triggered uproar with a new exhibit which shows just two copulating corpses.
German politicians called the current "Cycle of Life" show charting conception to old age "revolting" and "unacceptable" when it showed in Berlin earlier this year because it included copulating cadavers.
I'm all about art that pushes boundaries, but I'm interested in what other people think. I'm not made uncomfortable by sex, and dead body sculptures in sex poses doesn't offend me. In fact, I sort of wish they'd make exhibits with bodies having sex beyond the parameters of conception since most sex isn't for that purpose. And there's more than just straight sex. So what do you all think? Awesome? Disrespectful? Leave your thoughts in the comments.
Information on body donation can be found here. And the FAQs page here.
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Posted by FilthyGrandeur at 9/13/2009 02:10:00 PM 15 comments
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